Healing at the Pace Your Body Can Handle
Updated: 1 day ago
People will often ask, "How many sessions will this take to clear?" because their prime motivator is money, time, and energy commitments.
People expect fast results because that is how medication works—something hurts, you take a pill, the pain is gone. But eventually, things don't always work that well over time because the body is still not getting its needs met, so it has to find a way to speak a little louder.
Some people will say, "Just push me hard, I can handle it," but they can't. This often comes from the same motivation as above—wanting to save money, time, and energy.
But what has to come out of us in order for us to feel better and have a more enjoyable life takes time to come to the surface and teach us, in a way that we can absorb the lessons and make the needed changes to the way we do life.
Symptoms as Messages
In Esogetic terms, a symptom is communication from the body about what it needs.
Symptoms often occur when the body has run out of room from carrying too much stress and old unresolved emotions or conflict, making everything else feel like too much, too fast.
Healing, to me, means finding the space between suppressing everything we feel and forcing ourselves to deal with more than we can handle.
This is where pacing becomes important.
Finding Your Window of Tolerance
My Esogetic AI database coined the term "safety melt," which took a while to grow on me. Basically, imagine that we have things locked away inside us in metaphorical ice. Some Esogetic treatments are designed to crack the ice so we can let these things go.
When this happens, old emotions, conflicts, or symptoms can come to the surface. And we have to remember that our body locked these things away to protect us from what we could not handle before.
So when these feelings surface, we need to be honest about the pace at which we are able to handle them and remember that this is old stuff coming to the surface only to be witnessed and let go, not to be clung onto and intellectualized.
That said, as we begin to feel safer, our body might naturally start to melt the ice. This can be discouraging for people who want to hold onto feeling better.
The same guidelines apply: observe, let go, don't hold on, shove down, or make it worse than it needs to be.
Your level of tolerance isn't about toughing it out. It's about pacing.
If we push too hard because we want to get it done faster than you are ready, you are more likely to become overwhelmed and avoid sessions. If we slow it down to a pace where you can get win after win, even though parts of it may still be hard, you are more likely to want to keep booking sessions to see how far you can go.
When the System Pulls the Emergency Brake
There's another side to the "safety melt," which we can call the "emergency brake".
If more comes up than the person is ready for, before they are even consciously aware that anything has happened, their system can disengage and return to the familiar patterns that keep them stuck.
This is one of the ways people can find themselves trapped in patterns they consciously want to change.
I talk more about why these patterns can become a cage—and what I have learned about my own role as a practitioner when someone isn't ready to leave it—in Why the Cage Exists: Finding Kindness Between the Extremes.
The important part here is that having a more powerful intervention available doesn't mean the body is ready for it right now.
Pacing Applies to Me Too
I had a treatment available that I could have used to address what I was seeing in my own Kirlian Photo—the weak radiation coming off my right hand.
This photo, from Why the Cage Exists: Finding Kindness Between the Extremes, shows dots coming off my left hand and toes, which indicate that my system was already actively releasing things from my childhood and body. More treatment at this time could have stopped the progress that was already being made and undo some of the protection my body was trying to put in place.
The question then isn't, "What treatment can I use?", it's, "What does my body need from me right now?"
The more tools I have, the more important it becomes to know when not to use them.
Here Are a Few Other Important Concepts
Sleep and Brain Rhythms
As I tried to touch on in Why the Cage Exists: Finding Kindness Between the Extremes, an imbalance in our brain rhythms can happen when we keep trying to control at times when we need to let go, and over time these dysregulated rhythms can contribute to disease.
That said, the Esogetic brainwave machine costs money, and people really do benefit from having one of their own with programs that they need frequently in order to get them back to functioning well. But I have a real problem convincing people to invest in things that I think will help them because it opens me up to being blamed if they don't benefit as much as I do, which obviously can happen to anyone.
Regular Sessions
Similar to the above. I am not trying to get people to commit to paying me a regular fee, but regular sessions do help us keep track of what we are trying to do and build an understanding of how a client tends to react and what they need.
Self-Treatment
Self-treatment requires time, effort, and often an investment in equipment.
When we are presented with cases from Peter Mandel's clinic in Germany, clients are often asked to repeat certain treatments at home because some changes need time and repetition before they become solid.
In my own practice, I've encountered another reason self-treatment can matter. Some people aren't yet in a state where they can benefit from the treatments they ultimately need. Before we can do that work, we need to build a safe enough container:
The person needs to be present enough to handle what comes to the surface, with the physical exits open so the body can detox the physical aspects of old conflict, emotions, and trauma.
Without that foundation, the process can get interrupted in several ways:
Their hand is subconsciously on the emergency brake. Their system doesn't feel safe enough to allow much change in the first place.
A gain triggers the safety melt. Something improves, and feeling better allows what is beneath the surface to start coming out on its own. What initially looked like a win can suddenly become uncomfortable as the next layer begins to surface.
They consciously pull the emergency brake without realizing what they are stopping. Something difficult comes to the surface, either through treatment or on its own through a safety melt. They know they don't want to feel this way, but may not realize that what they're feeling needs support to come out rather than immediately being shut down. They may reach for something that helps them avoid or numb how they feel, pushing what was coming to the surface back down.
When a person doesn't know how to move through the whole process—which means telling me how they are reacting and having the tools on hand to support them through it—it is understandable that they would conclude that there has been no overall change and that the treatment didn't work. The goal is to help them move through the process so they can come out the other side with a win that holds and, over time, shifts the quality of their life.
This doesn't mean someone should tough it out. The goal is to prepare for the difficult parts: to recognize what is happening, know how to support themselves through it, and know when to ask for help.
I don't think people realize how much treatment I have done with my kids and on myself, and for how long, to help shift us into a different way of living. We have the tools in the home and the luxury of time. It wasn't necessarily daily treatment. It was treating what needed to be treated as it came to the surface. Slowly, over time, their container became safe enough to stay present on the paper and begin to open up and detox old garbage that one might think requires a strict diet to change.
What I have found is almost the opposite: change is easier when the photo is better. Forcing change in order to change the photo is the harder way to do life.
I understand that clients don't come to me with the same luxury of time. They want to feel better and experience solid gains now. That is the litmus test for a good modality.
Sometimes a person's body is ready for those kinds of gains, and sometimes it isn't. When it isn't, the approach has to be slower and take place over time, with treatment done at home as needed, until the body starts to relax enough to allow the in-person sessions to make the difference they are looking for.
This changes the argument for investing in self-treatment tools. It isn't simply buy the equipment because treating yourself will save you money. I can't promise in advance exactly which tools will prove most useful for a particular person. What I can say is that having treatment options available at home gives us something to work with as things come to the surface, rather than riding it out with no support and then never wanting to do that again.
Esogetic Medicine has always seen treatment-resistant clients as an opportunity to push forward what is possible and find new ways to help. I will continue to work on this and update this article as needed.
For now, I think about how my kids' Kirlian photos helped me understand what it looks like when someone has enough inside felt safety to get along, separate from what they rely on, try something new, take better care of themselves, get up on time, and achieve things they couldn't before. As these abilities began to develop, their photos also showed a level of presence and openness that hadn't been there before.
Readiness for treatment means building enough trust in life to be able to release what couldn't be processed before. In some cases, building that foundation requires regular treatment at home over a period of time.
Not Rushing the Insight
On that note, my work is not about me telling you things that I can see that you might not be ready to hear. I could be wrong. But, more importantly, even if I'm right, if the person isn't ready to hear it, their ego can push back like the "emergency brake" (above), and we miss an opportunity where they could have seen something for themselves that might have helped them in a way that sharing what I can see never could.
I don't know all the details that are important for each person to be able to see in order to have a meaningful shift. That is inside of them, and treatment will start to reveal it.
There is a progression here that matters to me:
body readiness → insight readiness → choice
The goal isn't for me to arrive at the answer first. It's for me to recognize what you need from me to help create the conditions where you can recognize what is true for yourself.
Reactions Need to Be Communicated, Interpreted, and Responded to Appropriately
Other than regulation, when needed, reaction is literally the goal of treatment.
I need to know how you react because reaction isn't what we celebrate. Reaction is information. Then we need to ask what it is telling us.
While suppressing every uncomfortable symptom because we don't want to feel it isn't going to help, symptom → message → don't suppress it isn't enough either, because what we are going for is:
symptom → information → understand what it is telling us → respond appropriately
The appropriate response might be another Esogetic treatment. It might be less treatment. It might be self-treatment. It might be a change in your life. It might mean medical procedures need to be given a higher priority.
The "win" isn't that pain became better or worse. The win is that the information became clear enough for appropriate action to happen.
Healing Doesn't Always Follow the Problem You Came In With
One reason I can't tell someone exactly how many sessions it will take to "clear" something is that what they come in with is sometimes just the excuse to start treatment.
Once I start working with someone, we discover what the body actually wants us to address. The original symptom might clear right away, or it might not clear at all. Sometimes, by the end, we discover that it was never really the point.
This doesn't necessarily mean that treatment failed.
Many people go into healing thinking they know what they want as an outcome, then discover that something they never knew was an option for them starts to unfold.
Who This Is For
This work is for people who want to understand what their body has been carrying and how to let it go, including the old experiences and rules they live by that can keep creating patterns that make life harder.
If you want a one-session fix, this work can feel more like opening a can of worms.
You may come for one thing and discover something else. Parts of the process may be difficult. And there may be times when the kindest thing we can do is slow down rather than trying to get through it faster.
If that isn't what you want, this is probably not right for you right now. And that's okay.
Your Body Sets the Pace
I can take and read your Kirlian Photo, offer an Esogetic impulse that fits what your photo shows you need, observe how you respond, and tell you what the next step might be.
Then it is up to you how you want to proceed.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation so you can ask questions and see whether this feels like a fit.
There is zero pressure from me. This is honestly about finding the right fit.
The goal is for you to become increasingly better at hearing and addressing what your body tells you it needs, hopefully with some tools you acquire along the way.
Healing isn't about proving how much you can handle.
It's about learning how much your body can process, listening when it tells you what it needs, and giving it enough time and support to do what it is already trying to do.
Comments