Unique Psychology Unique Health - menopause, andropause, birth, hormones, transition, and the brain

Originally published on https://www.yhalp.ca/post/unique-psychology-unique-health-menopause-andropause-birth-hormones-transition-and-the-brain on Jul 10/2025 moved to yourlifeplan.ca on Oct 20/2025.

We act as though the onset of the menstrual cycle is immediate, and it is only because menopause happens much earlier for women than men, so that most women suffer through it and live long after this transition, that it is studied more than andropause (which is hardly even discussed, older men suffer in silence).

The illusion of control offered mostly to women, to delay pregnancy, to force its onset when it doesn’t happen on its own, and then to even force the time of birth, much like this illusion of controlling what our children eat, because we can not control what they do or how they feel: comes at a cost.

Some people worry that the adjuvants added to vaccines (to mount a bigger immune response) cross the blood brain barrier causing autism. While there is some evidence of crossing the blood brain barrier, given the connection between immature black male bodies, and the tendency towards leaky gut (and thus leaky brain), autism tends to be more an isssue of growing in a cold womb, which to a certain degree can be reversed, if parents are willing to look at the role their unhealed trauma has to play. And, what is for certain, is the synthetic hormones we take for birth control, fertility treatments, and during perimenopause definitely cross the blood brain barrier, this is literally how hormones are distinguished from neurotransmitters: they are release somewhere in the body and have their effects somewhere far away. Which also explains why perimenopause (and andropause) symptoms are so diverse, we each experience the ones that have something to teach us and not the rest.

Going through the adjustment into menopause, is likewise similar to the opening of the cervix in a natural (non-induced) birth, which is much less painful and thus less likely to require pain killers, compared to induction or c-section. They dup us, but, we are meant to be duped, so we have something to learn from by healing it later on.

This is the beauty of Esogetic Medicine, you learn as you use the system, because we are all unique, what will work for me, what my story is, what is stuck in my brain or cells to be released, is not the same as what is stuck for you. But, shockingly, the hormones we lose as we cycle through missing periods in perimenopause, that cause perimenopause symptoms, also impact memory areas of our brain. Making us remember, and see our childhood wounds, through a new lens, so we can forgive our parents, not necessarily for them, but for us.

My business is highly protected. While it can feel hard to hold, it’s because I am doing the work. Things fall apart, and I don’t keep talking on social media as if they are not, I don’t keep trying to hold up a paper dragon, because my ego needs it to be real. I take a step back and feel incredibly uncomfortable, and realize, that I can’t control who my services are for, very few will be ready and able to do the work. I’ve focused so long on the people I think I can help, if I just accommodate to their limits (see article below), but this is not right or helpful.

People are in the situation they are in BECAUSE they are in the situation they are in, it is only when they can identify that they are stuck and prioritize getting help to get unstuck, by investing the time and money and committing to showing up, that I can help…

In the past 1.5 weeks I have been treating myself daily, offering myself what I never have the time or energy left to do. I have experienced, for what feels like the first time, RestoreChi (and my other practitioners) being unable to “save me” alone, of course there have been times when RestoreChi can improve some but not all of my symptoms, until I see Master Yan and he does what his tracks have not been designed to do. But Master Yan is stepping away from using his own energy to heal others (because healers pay a price when they do that)! Recipients of healing need to take what one modality can give them, and carry the rest, borrow from others, and pay attention to their unique life experience, to see what life want them to see!

For me, I am reading a book about how people break and another about how people are programmed (parenting). And I am watching how I feel, watching a TV series in my mother’s native language (about step families), and how I react to other children. It’s not easy, it’s not meant to be. Some families will have that mess, some families will be lucky enough to make choices to avoid it. We are as lucky as our unique psychology and life path wants us to be.

This is our soul’s journey, we need to make choices that allow our soul to grow. While this is what I have come to believe (and all beliefs can start to no longer feel true): our lives gets harder the less we are willing to do the hard thing, which is remember that we are dragons (snakes with wings, low to the ground, buried deep in human suffering, our wings give us the ability to fly above, to gain perspective, but trying to go to source before it’s our time, will only result in us burning up like Icarus).

Concepts above borrowed from Further along The Road Less Travelled (not as good as the original) and Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Understanding the Crucial Link Between Mothers, Daughters, and Health.

Sadly, the author of the first book (not shown in the image above) says to medicate physical pain, and that physical aging can’t be stoped, but to face psychological pain, because we can always continue to grow and evolve psychologically. While this is a choice some/many people make, other people will get to see that working through physical illness has just as many gifts and working through psychological illness.

I tend not to use medication because my kids don’t want it, so I needed to find ways to support them when they are sick, and now, when I try to give myself medication (as a sign of mercy and love) I get more side effects than positive effects, it’s just not worth it to me, even though sometimes I get lucky, and the pain is relieved, but it comes back to be dealt with properly later, after I’ve seen that the relief was not without a cost, my body just can’t handle any more to detox!

It’s possible that I am detoxing uterine/ovarian cancer. Hormonal based cancers (like this and breast cancer) are very common around perimenopause. The garbage has to go, our hormones can no longer stick around, to keep them at bay, they already gave us a grace window to parent in, unless we had so much conflict or attempts at control that our cancer even overrode what was supposed to be our period of “rest”. Parenting is so intense that it’s understandable that we get a break from other things to do it, if we allow it, and this is why parents as my only niche (more on this below) is not always a good idea. Not all parents have the energy and time, unless they are in such bad shape to get a pass from parenting, and then will they use this time to heal?

German New Medicine (see images below, the only inaccuracy I see is Esogetic Induction uses brainwaves, you can also see how Esogetics more thoroughly deals with conflict by learning how to get along, allowing it to be received and grow, while GNM continues to oppose mainstream, not offering to work with, causing it to be shunned, and thus unable to grow, but it’s nice to see that more people are open to considering the psychological side to physical illness):

…is being talked about more, while it seems to use brain imaging to identify lesions, to give the person a starting point, to talk about the conflict that may have lead to their cancer, Esogetic Medicine goes above and beyond, not just “talking about it” but using light, sound, brainwaves, and sacred geometry in crystals (which is how a computer works), to open up pathways, break negative loops, and bring old conflicts to the surface, to be processed, the lessons integrated, and that which no longer serves, discarded. This is what life is: digesting, integrating, and releasing (physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, and psychologically).

Like mainstream methods of removing cancer, it’s not pleasant, the body letting go of garbage that has been there for decades never is. We can choose how we want to go about this, but it’s never just physical or just mental, it’s both. This is where unique health comes from: we have a unique LifePlan (a unique psychology) but our soul can’t know how we as a human will react to our experience, this why our soul is living this life, to see the impact and then hopefully our human self is smart enough to undo the damage, that’s how we mine the gift.

A lot of people trigger me, as they talk as if they know, but never seem to be honest and do the work, it’s all surface, if they can’t admit how hard it really is. Honesty and getting help would shatter their ego, but this is not our ego’s life, it’s our souls!

Those with ears that listen will hear. This is why (as I have alluded to a couple times above): I am not allowed to pigeon hole my services, though I think I need to do so to market it (at times). If I close off to those who actually may have it in them to benefit, the universe puts me in a time out, so that through suffering I can gain perspective. Even though I never withdraw love or punish my own kids. The consequences in my family are natural: you do something that pisses me off, I get pissed off, and have to show you, by example, how we can choose to navigate it…

On my 47th birthday I got a clear kirlian photo (risk for cellular change in my uterus), 1 month later I let a client session run long, had a hot flash, and opened the window to let chill into my body. A month later, while showing my photo to a client as an example of what we look for, they suggested I get that cancer risk checked out. I texted Master Yan and he confirmed and sent more yang to my uterus to clear it, 12hrs later, the signs started to drop away in my kirlian photo (as can be seen in my previous article, still a work in progress, due to the pigeon holing and the overextension of my services, for those who can’t just commit to showing up at my home, to receive treatment slowly over time, as intended, psychological (mental, social, emotional) healing takes time, so does physical healing, both can be chronic, and that doesn’t always mean incurable): https://www.yhalp.ca/post/groups-services-and-kirlian-photography-explained

Then I experienced roughly 6 months of repeatedly falling ill, allergy symptoms, thinning skin between my chin and neck, pain (from what I now assume was thinning of the skin in my nose, irritated by constant detox through mucus discharge), and then finally insanely itchy skin, starting where we place the sephira daath on the body, going up and down my torso and a bit onto my back, finally starting to release more and more today, possibly due to my body launching a rest cycle (a successful ovulation), as there are in active labour (for birth of baby, business, or creative endeavor). We need to learn how to use these rest periods and know that we can handle the next contraction, because we were designed to do this, and the pain tells us how to move to help our baby (this life, our business) move through.

Do you see now, what a shame it is, when they numb us and give us synthetic hormones? They make it seem like we are crazy and do things because we are misinformed (including choosing not to vaccinate and not to push the option of choosing our gender, hormones and surgery have consequences on the brain and body that most people don’t understand, and they won’t unless they are allowed to do it, so let them do it, while we walk a different path, not out of being right, but out of doing what is right for us, and letting their soul do what is right for them). Not everything we do needs to be out of fear, in fact, it’s better when it comes from love and acceptance for self and others.

For me, it’s perfect without the control, without the tampering, which is why my philosophy is not to control my kids, but instead to understand their unique psychological (to calm my own fears of not knowing where their choices will lead) and applying Esogetic Medicine when their health gets off track, because illness/symptoms are a sign that we need help finding our selves again, that’s it that’s all.

This is why treating kids is more likely to be successful and faster than treating adults. Adults bury their illness deep, in an intricate web, based on their unique experience, temperament, and soul’s LifePlan (often what their human self erroneously thinks they need to hold onto to get what they want, but they never will in that way because that’s not what this life is about, we need to take responsibility and grow, if we choose to stay a child and blame, we will continue to suffer).

When you treat a child, know, accept, and support them for who they are, they generally haven’t built their web yet, so releasing their symptoms is easier, because the problem is closer to the surface. This, however, requires the parents not to be actively creating the problem, which is why they need to be on board to shift and accept their child’s unique psychology too!

Me treating my child (using her kirlian photos, to understand what blocks need to be cleared, so she can align once again, to guidance from her soul’s LifePlan)

Finally, I’ll mention why the itch emerged from daath for me: I finally met a fellow Esogetic practitioner in person, we exchanged the symbols attachment treatment, which means what are we attached to, that is not ours to carry, spoken of in terms of symbols (astrological signs and planets).

For me it was Mars/Aries, Venus/Libra, and the Moon/Cancer. While my natal sun in in Scorpio (ancient ruler being Mars, modern ruler being Pluto/Daath, which is also conjunct my north node, with Venus in Libra in the 6th house of learning through illness in the body, deep learning through trial and error if you include my 1/3 human design profile, leaving my south node in Aries, in the 12th house of hidden enemies, with my ascendant, and natal moon, really sums up my chart pretty well, not to mention the only tattoos on my body sit on the shadow side of Mars and the front side of Venus, Mars being the ruler of my chart, sitting in the house of the family of origin, in Cancer, the moon, my unmet needs, with Jupiter also in the same sign, but in the house of communication, to make this bigger than most feel it needs to be, we have come full circle, dual meanings here, at least):

Many women finally let go of their childhood wounds in perimenopause, if you ignore all the hype on social media, it’s not about numbing the symptoms or excusing bad behavior, it’s about trying to understand what they want to show us, that you have the ability to heal and move away from.

Many women miss the opportunity, because they are too busy. They use synthetic hormones to medicate puberty (acne), to rush birth (I did, 3 times, all that Aries energy), and to clear their menopause (itch), they collect symptoms of old age, when a life time of low blood pressure (unwillingness to truly live) becomes high blood pressure (with added cholesterol), no longer bleeding monthly to detox. The mistakes we are able to make as a child, if we are lucky enough to have parents who allow for that, like eating junk to learn that it doesn’t make us feel good or eating junk to get us through what would otherwise cause us too much anxiety to participate in or absorb, we are no longer afforded this leniency when we are older, if we listen, our body will guide us to what it needs and what it doesn’t want.

I hope this is helpful for those who are ready to invest in themselves, to learn about themselves, to really shift, and to grow.