Without fail, if I am writing an article that requires more thought than I am aware of, my 3.5yr old daughter will show up at my office door and need me for something. There is a very good reason for this. Read on...
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The reason my 3.5yr old daughter is apt to interrupt me is she is a projector (natural guide for others) like me, but unlike me (who is a 1/3 projector), she is a 5/2 projector.
These numbers have very specific meaning!
A 5/2 is someone who is a natural at influencing strangers. So, my daughter knows when my article is not quite share-ready, and she will interrupt me in order to stop my process, and I have learned to listen. Because, as I step away to support her needs, my article finds a better way to express itself in my mind. And then I can return to write it later, when she lets me.
Its annoying to my ego, but it is better for my impact!
I am also gifted with a husband who is a 4/6, according to his Human Design.
A 4/6 is gifted at influencing people in their network (friends, family, people close to them, etc).
This differs from a 5/2, because a 5/2 can only influence people they don’t know! People close to the 5/2 often do not listen to what they have to say.
Without awareness, both situations can be frustrating and painful!
The 4/6 is often looked to by their family to speak so others will listen, even though, among strangers, people might call the 4/6 shy, because they don’t seem to have much to say.
Even with awareness my husband still drives me crazy, because he is clearly better at working with people than I am:
When I get off the phone with someone, he never fails to ask me questions that he clearly did not hear me ask. Questions like: how are they, what are they doing, etc.
I don’t ask these questions because they are irrelevant to me, it’s none of my business, I just ask for what I need, or tell them what I need, clearly making no friends and building no favors along the way, because I am a 1/3, I’m heads-down, simply trying to build my foundation of truth, making all kinds of mistakes along the way. I’m not concerned how others feel or what they are doing, I get to the point, so we can get back to our lives.
You can see how this strategy doesn’t really win me many friends and makes it harder for me to influence my network? When it’s tit-for-tat, there is no relationship.
I don't remember to ask how they are, so they don't bother to listen to what I have to say.
This is part of the reason why I began to launch magazines in groups. As it so happens, one of my groups has a 5/2 and a 2/4 on board as co-founders: Click on the butterfly logo at the top of any of the main pages of YourLifePlan.ca to find the Practical Spiritual Services e-magazine.
The 5/2, like my daughter, is a natural with the general public, and the 2/4 is a natural with her network. If we simply allow each other to play our roles, then I can play mine, which is to write and build a solid foundation for our magazine. The perfect job for a 1/3.
Photo borrowed from WallQuotes.
Time to put our egos aside, see the gifts in others, collaborate knowing we don't have to be everything, and leverage our team!
Someone posted this question earlier this week:
I provided the following response:
Again winning me zero points, but what do you think?
Can you do a better job at:
- putting your ego aside,
- playing to your strengths,
- forgiving your weaknesses, and
- leveraging the strengths of your family and team members?
If you want support and guidance with this, feel free to reach out! I am much better one on one, as all projectors are...
Love, Bless, and Strong, Now and always!
Family Dynamics and Life Purpose Specialist